What is conflict?
To me, it’s that sticky, gooey place where my feet hesitate to tread. It’s that dark and spooky forest filled with low hanging offenses where I tend to bump my feelings, which weigh me down for far too long.
It’s a place I avoid for fear I won’t be able to wrangle my anger in the middle, where those sharp and pointy words tend to fly forward from my tongue, harming the very ones I love most.
Have you been there?
Do you visit often? Some I’ve heard enjoy the trip… see it as an amusement park, a joy ride, pointing fingers and riding high on the rollercoaster of pride and insecurity of others.
But I’ve heard tell…
there’s this special spot. You have to nail it down right there in the middle. It’s kind of a tricky thing to get there, but I know a Warrior who can take us. Her name is Abigail and she’s secured the way. I’m going there today with her and you could come too… if you want.
The way Abigail tells it, in the middle, conflict can be resolved.
In the middle conflict isn’t so bad.
In the middle, peace can be found.
But you have to meet, even when it’s hard, right there in the middle.
And don’t let…
her humble bow fool you. This warrior is not shy or weak. In fact, she’s quite the opposite. It takes bold faith to walk forward in shoes of peace and negotiate your way out of war. I’d wager this is not her first meeting in the middle on behalf of her foolish husband. She’s most likely smoothed over hurt feelings and quick tempered words before.
What a beautiful picture she puts in motion as a ‘helper’ to her husband, even when he is not worthy of it. She chooses to honor God, to think of others, to humble herself for the greater good. And it does not go unnoticed… by God or people.
Far too often…
this term ‘helper’ is wrongly understood as a subservient, less than, submissive wife to her husband when first seen in the Garden (Genesis 2:18). When in fact, what God intended by creating a women as a ‘helper’ to the man, was that the woman be one who balances him out as an equal counterpart with different strengths. And what I believe you’ll see here is just that… Abigail made up for her husband’s shortcomings; filled in the gaps for his lack; smoothed over the rough places he left behind in his wake.
It’s not that the ‘helper’ must always fix her man’s mistakes, this is just one example pointed out of a ‘helper’ in action to prove that they are not weak, nor passive… but bold, capable, and strong. ‘Helpers’ are determined to make a whole out of what was just part. For God knew that it was not good that any of us be alone.
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If you found life of Abigail inspiring, you are likely to also learn great truths from the life of Hagar. It is detailed in Episodes 029.Are You a Captive of Comparison or a Defender of Differences?, 030.Worn Out, Weary, and On the Run, and 031.How Can I Find True Freedom When I’m Such a Slave to Fear?